Egg White, Basil & Bacon Sandwich with Avocado

IMG_20200418_132305_575I have been putting fresh herbs in my egg whites lately and I ordered this new spice blend from Tastefully Simple and thought I’d give that a try. It’s called Si Si Cilantro. I LOVE cilantro already so that was easy but boy O boy is this blend delicious! So, of course the wheels in my brain got to spinning and I came up with this sandwich and I honestly didn’t think it would be as good as it is. I mean no lie one of the best things I have ever eaten. Now you can certainly substitute some things and I will list some substitutions but if at all possible try to stick with these ingredients because you won’t be sorry. This combination of flavors just clicks and it feels great when your creativity hits that harmonious bullseye and you go…DANG! How’d I do that????? Don’t know, but glad I did!!! Enjoy!! 🙂

IMG_20200418_121505924You will need:

  • Canola oil, butter, or olive oil
  • 4 egg whites (or 2 whole eggs if you prefer)
  •  Fresh basil chopped (about 2 lg leaves or 3-4 small leaves)
  • 1/2 tsp Si Si Cilantro (if you don’t have this you can use garlic powder and dried or fresh cilantro and a little red pepper flakes)
  •  Freshly ground pepper to taste
  • 1/4-1/2 cup shredded sharp white cheddar (any cheese is fine but this one worked so well)
  • 2 slices thick whole grain bread toasted (any bread is fine but thick sliced is better)
  •  butter (softened)
  •  horseradish sauce (mayo would work)
  • 1/2 avocado sliced thin (guacamole would work too)
  •  2 slices thick peppered bacon cooked crisp (Schwan’s peppered bacon is my absolute favorite but regular thick or regular sliced is fine just cook it with pepper)IMG_20200418_122105730IMG_20200418_122253847

In a non stick pan over low to medium heat drizzle some oil or butter and coat the pan evenly. When heated add the egg whites. Sprinkle on while the eggs are cooking the basil, Si Si Cilantro, and pepper. Do not flip. When eggs are almost cooked, evenly add cheese then gently flip half of it over like an omelet and turn off  heat. You can add a few more sprinkles of basil and pepper on top if you’d like.IMG_20200418_122405918

Lightly toast the bread. On the first slice spread horseradish sauce to taste. Next add the avocado, then the bacon (break each piece in half and lay over avocado). Then add the eggs (you can cut the eggs to the size of the bread or just let them hang over the side, it all tastes the same! Lol!) Spread butter on 2nd piece of toast and press butter side down onto sandwich. Carefully cut in half…. YUM!!! **** And if you don’t want to make this into a sandwich the eggs are amazing just as they are! IMG_20200418_132305_575

Enjoy! 🙂

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Ham Burrito/Bowls (Leftover x2 Meal)

IMG_20200413_140226_895If you made a ham for Easter chances are you have some left. Ham is so yummy leftover but I wanted to change it up a bit. I went with ingredients I had on hand but you can use many different substitutions with this recipe. It is about mild to medium heat so feel free to adjust it to your heat preference. You can eat this filling in taco shells, tortillas, in a salad, as a dip or just in a bowl by itself! Enjoy!

You will need:

-Olive oil

-2 cups of diced ham (you can use pretty much any meat you have on hand)

-3 to 4 cups of sliced or chopped peppers and onions (any kind fresh or frozen)

-1/2 tsp red pepper flakes (1 tsp if you want more heat)

-1 tsp garlic powder

-1 tsp dried cilantro (fresh is even better)

-1 tsp curry powder

-1 tsp chili powder

-1-1/2 tsp smoked paprika

-1/2 tsp coriander

-1/4 tsp ground black pepper

-1/2 tsp salt

-1 cup diced tomatoes (you can use canned too)

-1-1/2 cups leftover corn (or whatever you have frozen, canned etc)

-2 bags of boil in the bag white rice cooked (any cooked rice will work)

-Shredded cheese

-Tortillas, taco shells, chips or whatever you preferIMG_20200413_102902329

In a large skillet over medium heat drizzle a good amount of olive oil and after heated add ham. Use a wooden spoon and heat for 1-2 minutes then add peppers and onions and stir. Add all spices and stir until blended. Add more oil if needed. Stir in tomatoes and corn gently until well blended. Add rice and mix until it is coated with mixture. Turn heat to low and continue to stir until it is warmed thru and blended. Remove from heat. IMG_20200413_103658936

Eat any way you prefer with just about any topping you’d like! If you like heat you can add jalapenos or hot sauce. Avocados, olives or any kind of salsa or cheese would be great especially with the smokiness of the paprika.

This would be great leftover! It would also freeze well and can be made ahead as a great food prep weekly meal.

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Grandma’s Cookbook-Recipe Refresh #1 Jack Pot Casserole (1948)

IMG_20200406_081611_107Choosing recipes for this series is hard enough with so many to choose from within this wonderful book but adding to it the challenges we are facing right now, made it even more difficult with our limited pantries and shopping trips. BUT, let’s face it…it pales in comparison to what people are enduring and dealing with everyday. I will happily manage 🙂

My goal in this series is to take vintage recipes from my Grandmother’s cookbook and refresh them to match our modern times. Some are just fine the way they are and some just need a revamp or to be made with healthier more up to date ingredients. IMG_20200405_144352247

I have always been about substitutions in recipes. Some of the best dishes come from “oopsies” or just not having all the right ingredients. This is probably why I am not the best baker because I am not one to measure or to follow rules in the kitchen lol!IMG_20200323_103606492

So, I will include the original recipe and then also my refresh. I like to avoid sodium in my dishes as much as possible due to my husband’s heart issues but you can always add it if you prefer.

Like I said, with our limited pantries at the moment please feel free to contact me with questions on substitutions. You would be surprised just how many ingredients can be substituted with whatever you have on hand and you will still have a great dish! Enjoy!IMG_20200405_154855271

You will need:

  • 2-  Boneless skinless chicken breasts cut into bite size pieces  (I think ground chicken, turkey, or beef would have been better in this dish (approx. 1 lb) but I didn’t have any on hand)
  • 2- Tb Butter (you can omit the butter and add more olive oil if you want)
  •  Olive oil
  • 1- med onion chopped
  • 3- garlic cloves minced
  • Fresh ground pepper
  • 3 tsp cilantro dried or fresh
  • 1/2 tsp red pepper flakes
  • 1 tsp cumin
  • 1/2 tsp chili powder
  • 1 tsp curry powder
  • 1- 14.5oz can no salt added petite diced tomatoes (you could add 2 cans if you are a big tomato fan)
  • 1- 1/2 cup water
  •  1 Tb tomato paste
  •  1/2 package (8oz) pasta (any kind) uncooked (I used elbow)
  •  2- 14.75 oz cans cream style corn
  •  1/4 cup chopped jalapenos (I used jar) add more if you like the heat
  • 1/2 cup grated parmesan cheese
  • 1-1/2 cup shredded cheese (I used a mexi cheddar blend)
  • Crushed tortilla or corn chips

Preheat oven to 350 degrees

Add butter and a good drizzle of olive oil to pan on medium heat. Add onion, some pepper, red pepper flakes and 1 tsp cilantro. Sauté for a couple minutes then add garlic and stir a minute or 2. Add chicken, cumin, chili powder, 1 tsp cilantro, and curry. Cook until chicken is white (chicken will cook more in the oven) Add the tomatoes, (Put a splash of water in the tomato can and swish it to soak up the tomato juice left in can and add to pan. You will also do this with the corn cans) tomato paste, water, and noodles and another couple grinds of pepper. Stir until blended. Cook until noodles are tender stirring frequently. Add corn, jalapenos, and parmesan and stir. Remove from heat.IMG_20200405_155816233IMG_20200405_161208790

Pour into a greased casserole dish ( I used an 8 x 11 rectangular). Sprinkle with shredded cheese and chips and drizzle the top with olive oil. Bake approx. 45 min until golden and bubbly. IMG_20200405_162112387IMG_20200405_162739760

IMG_20200405_170637683Let it rest out of the oven for about 10 min. Serve with remaining cilantro, cheese and chips. Btw I think olives would have been great with this dish but my family doesn’t like them! If you like heat you can serve with hot sauce or more jalapenos. Serves 6-8 and is GREAT leftover! Can also be made ahead! **This is a medium heat dishIMG_20200406_081611_107

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My Journey Into My Grandma’s Cookbook

 

fb_img_1456083434628-1I can’t even remember how long I have had it. It’s just kind of always been there. Through all the moves, packing and unpacking, on this shelf, in that cupboard… just always around. I am almost ashamed of that. Like it’s the lost or forgotten of Andy’s toys…dusty, under all the newest and more desirable and it’s prior AND present value and beauty ignored.

I have a wall of shelves in my basement adorned with all my dining and kitchen goodies. Everything you need for table setting and entertaining…well not everything…but I love my collection and it gets lots of love and use. Holidays, dinner parties, birthday parties etc. I LOVE to entertain and that will never change, God willing.

Recently I went downstairs to retrieve some dinnerware for a family birthday dinner I was hosting and as I was digging around for “just the right” items (and sometimes that takes a while because I am unfortunately a perfectionist!) I was trying to grab something in the back of the shelf and there it was! Like I had never seen it before! Ya know, one of those moments where the choir sings and a light emanates around it? It literally stopped me in my tracks. I put everything down and opened this cookbook. I cannot easily explain what I felt. It was overwhelming. At that moment nothing was going to keep me from looking at this treasure. It took me ALL these years to see its glory. It’s as if Grandma herself took it off that shelf and SMACKED me in the head with it! And if you knew my VERY Polish Grandma you would not be surprised! I think I felt that wooden spoon she used to threaten us with, (but never used because we KNEW not to push her that far), cracking me in the behind and a voice saying “Charlene Sue! Why is my cookbook collecting dust?! Do you know how many years of sweat and joy I put in that book? Now open it up and appreciate it!” I honestly haven’t put it down since.

IMG_20200323_103606492The cover is held together by duct tape and the pages are very delicate (a revised edition from 1938). As you turn the pages you can’t help but put yourself in that time. The pictures, the terminology, the old smell, her carefully thought out notations, the drips and stains, the carefully organized recipes in all their categories…just a plethora of a time that has almost been forgotten and not appreciated for the beauty that it was.

I love that women are in a place in time of choices. A little girl can grow up and be whatever she wants to be. Many fought for these rights and choices and aren’t we ever so grateful? I do feel, and this is just my opinion, that one choice has gotten a little lost in the shuffle of modern times….and that is the choice of being a Homemaker. I don’t even think I hear that word used anymore and it saddens me because it IS a choice and a wonderful one! I believe it is a choice that doesn’t get the respect it used to and I also feel women who TRULY want to make this choice are somewhat misunderstood. ” Hi Mary! So nice to meet you! What do you do?” – “Well, I am a Homemaker, Domestic Engineer, a Stay at home Mom.” –  “Oooooo so you don’t work?” –  Mmmmmmmmm……???? 😦

When I was growing up I really have no idea why, but my dream was to be a Homemaker. I played make believe Mom and housewife ALL the time when I was a little girl. I couldn’t wait to get married, set up a home and have children. Boy, if I had a nickel for every time I heard “Aren’t you going to college? What about your career? So, what are you going to do with your life?” Now, granted, I did get married way too young due to family circumstances that I won’t get into, and no I wasn’t pregnant lol, but I can truly understand why people may have been worried about my future, worried I may go down a bad path of struggle and regret, but I knew deep down I was living my dream and I was willing to take the chance….in fact, I made it very clear to my husband-to-be that that was my life plan and he had to agree to it before I would walk down the isle! 🙂 Life IS full of struggle and regret no matter what path we take, but I think it’s how we overcome and learn from it all that molds us into what we become.wedding 1984-3

IMG_20170108_165420629 (2017_09_11 13_04_50 UTC)The reason I believe this has become such a misunderstood career choice is because of the time we live in. It is just about impossible to live on one income nowadays and those few women who may want to be at home by choice just can’t make it work financially…especially when you have children. Those buggers cost a fortune! 🙂 I have had my years of feeling like I had to work outside of the home and I have accumulated marketable skills over the years and did get out there and put them to use…BUT, I never stuck with it because it wasn’t my passion and I was always unhappy trying, so, I tried to earn income in many different ways from home to make ends meet. IMG_20200321_101343086IMG_5504 (1)

Please do not misunderstand me. I COMPLETELY support women in ANY career choice they make…well as long as it’s legal lol, and I DO NOT think a woman who CHOOSES to have a career outside of the home is any less or more than a woman who doesn’t. We NEED to support each other always and respect ALL our choices as the awesome women we are and see their value. As I look through this cookbook I wonder what my Grandma was thinking. Was she happy in her choices? Was she content or did she need more? Did she feel pressure to live the life she lived or was it HER passion? As I read all her little notes and see all her care in every page she saved, every recipe she carefully chose I feel more and more that she DID have a passion for what she did. I am sure there were things she dreamed of doing, choices she wondered about, what-if’s she pondered from time to time, but I can tell you that those times at Grandma’s house were bursting with love. Gave me literally the BEST memories of my childhood. The smells, the tradition, the amazing food, the care she put into every detail. The love and comfort I felt at every event or Holiday at her house stayed with me to this day. I really don’t believe a soul such as she would have been able to make us all feel that way if she wasn’t living her choice OR her passion. If that were the case, bless her heart, she was amazing at making us believe otherwise.

I think I actually just answered my own question. My Grandma is probably the reason, and her daughter, my amazing Aunt Carole, that I developed such a passion for home. Such a passion and a need to nurture and create comfort for all that surround me. I want to make my loved ones feel what I felt during those few and precious gatherings at Grandmas house. And, I DON”T want it forgotten. I don’t want that “choice” to go away. I don’t want that choice to no longer be an option for women who want it, for women who HAVE that passion. I don’t want that choice to be frowned upon or disrespected or not seen for its value. I want to fight for THAT choice to BE a choice in todays modern times for those few who desire it.

There is so much I want to share with you from this cookbook. So I am starting a series dedicated to it. It has SO much interesting material that I HAVE to! Ooooo the recipes! You will not believe the recipes! Not only do I want to spotlight them but I want to revamp them to recipes for “TODAY”.  I even saw a few where one of the ingredients was MSG! Good grief! How far we have come! IMG_20200323_103741944IMG_20200321_101403136

 

 

As I look at THIS picture, this advertisement featuring a young girl so proudly, with the help of her Mother, presenting the most “perfectly” perfected cake to the “MAN” of the house, her Father, and looking so accomplished and joyful! But…I just wonder, knowing the time, was SHE being presented choices? Or was she so gracefully being groomed into what ended up being MY dream…but maybe wasn’t hers?

These are some of the many things I want to explore and share with you and ALL from this amazing cookbook I shamefully put to the side for so many years. Who knew? Who knew I had a magical book by my side just waiting for me to let it shine…let it shine in all of Grandma’s underrated glory. She has been gone, but NOT forgotten, since 2004 and it’s about time I share her priceless treasures and put that precious book front and center where it belongs. Buzz and Woody would be so proud 🙂

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Stay tuned……

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Pomegranate Apple Crisp

This recipe is definitely one of my favorites and perfect for the Holidays!

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IMG_20180102_111347_852This is a really different apple crisp recipe but I love it! You get a little crunch and zing from the pomegranate seeds along with the rich sweetness of the apples and crisp topping. I am always pushed into the mood to make apple pie or crisp when I have those extra apples left in the produce drawer that no one wants to bother eating because they aren’t perfect. 😦  So, I tend to make apple recipes with a mix of different types of apples on their last leg and it hasn’t failed me yet! I REALLY hate wasting food, so sometimes I create great recipes because of it….win-win! 🙂

You will need:

  • 8 cups of peeled, cored and sliced apples (any kind you prefer)
  • 1 cup of pomegranate seeds (save a little for garnish)
  • Juice of 1/2 lemon
  • 1-1/2 cups packed brown sugar
  • 1 cup uncooked oats
  • 1 cup…

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Peppered Bacon Green Beans

This is a great recipe to revisit for the Holiday season!

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img_20151126_193203-1If you are looking for a change from green bean casserole for the holidays I invite you to try this delicious and easy recipe. Now this doesn’t fall into my Healthy Selection category (AT ALL) but it IS for the Holidays when you make those little splurges. I have never been a fan of the good ol’ green bean casserole and this is what I have always made, and as far as I know, I haven’t had any complaints 🙂

You will need:

  • 1 pkg. (includes 3 bags) Schwan’s Live Smart Microsteam Green Beans (you can also use fresh washed green beans)
  • 6-8 slices Schwan’s Thick Sliced bacon thawed and cut into 1 inch pieces (you can use the whole package if you like more bacon)
  • 1 c water to start- may need a little more throughout cooking
  • approx. 1 tsp fresh ground pepper up to 1-1/2 tsp if you like a little…

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Entertaining in the Fall…why it is the best time of year to host a gathering :)

Let’s get the Fall festivities going!

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img_20160801_121324-1Whether you are an experienced Host or someone who is just thinking of entertaining at home the Fall season is by far your best bet. Until recently, I hosted my annual get together of about 25-35 people every year without fail in October…and let me tell you why.

Not only is Fall the BEST time of year but October is only host to one festive holiday… Halloween. And that falls at the very end of the month. So, you are left with an entire 30 days to do…WHATEVER!

It’s not like September, November, or December. September is busy with back to school, Fall sports, and it’s still mainly a Summer month… November starts to get pretty cold and in todays day and age most people are already in Christmas mode and wanting to spend their weekends shopping…and let us NOT forget Thanksgiving (my favorite) and that pesky and ANNOYING black Friday…THEN, when you finally…

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Roasted Ginger Curry Autumn Medley

It’s that time of year again to revisit this recipe! Sooooo good!

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img_20160926_103940I can’t get enough of roasted vegetables!! Especially root vegetables and especially this time of year. They are so rustic and hearty and look beautiful on your table. The fun thing about them is that you can make them in any combination and it is ALWAYS good. So for the amateur cook it’s a no fail dish. Pick from your favorites or from what’s on hand, throw them together, roast ’em and like magic you have a dish to serve that makes you look like a pro! I have many of my own favorite combinations and I will be posting them but this one is my absolute favorites. It is perfect for the Fall and winter and holiday season and can be paired with just about anything. You can prep it ahead and roast it before serving and this is also one of my Healthy Selections recipes so it’s good…

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Spaghetti Squash

I am a total vegetable freak! I love them and spaghetti squash is definitely one of my absolute favorites. You just can’t get easier…it is a very simple process to make and you can literally change it up anyway you’d like. You can serve it so many ways just use your imagination! IMG_20190430_102832_970

 

You will need:

-1 or 2 med to large spaghetti squash

-olive oil

-salt and pepper

-any seasoning blend you prefer or just stick with salt & pepper (my favorite to use is Tastefully Simple’s Rustic Herb Seasoning)IMG_20190505_123524179

Line a sheet pan with foil and preheat oven to 400 degrees

Cut squash in half lengthwise and scoop out and discard seeds.  Drizzle and rub olive oil thoroughly on the inside. Sprinkle with salt and pepper (I leave out the salt because we are on a low sodium diet) and any other seasoning you like.IMG_20190405_190654107

Turn the squash up side down skin side up and bake for 30-60 minutes (depends on size and number of halves) or until your finger indents the skin when you press it. It should be a little squishy.

Remove pan from oven and using tongs flip them right side up to cool for about 5 minutes.IMG_20190405_190520295

Using a fork “fluff” the squash “noodles” out of the skin. You can eat it right out of the skin (built in bowl!) or remove it to use as a side dish or mixed with anything you’d like! You’re favorite sauce, cheese, vegetable or salad…you name it! It is just DELICIOUS!IMG_20190430_102832_970

Enjoy!!

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How My Heart Breaks a Little Every Day for Today’s Youth… Part 1

IMG_20180703_114311160When You Decide To Have Children….

Looking back at all the former generations they all had children or procreated for different reasons. There was a time when families were much larger and stayed together on one farm. They had large families to CREATE financial stability. The more kids, the more workers, the more the farm or family business prospered. That was their life. They worked hard and had unity…one common goal. During the depression these families were hit hard and then it became about keeping enough food on the table and not losing the family business. I learned so much from my grandmother about this time in history. I loved her stories. To this day an elderly person will stop me in my tracks if I can hear a story from their time. It is FACINATING. And if you ever have the chance please take the time to listen. Not only does it make them happy to tell those stories but it teaches us so much if we choose to hear them and absorb it. (****This is my sweet friend from Tennessee, Jackie, how I miss her and her stories 🙂 )IMG_20160206_133857258 (1) (2017_09_11 13_04_50 UTC) (2017_10_05 19_06_50 UTC)

Then time slowly changed and large families became rare. The time of “Suburbia” arrived with the 2.5 kids and the white picket fence. Possessions became a staple and started to define us so therefore parents started having less children to be able to afford them. The family dynamic in my opinion became more about a social statement than about procreation. Women were looked down upon if they couldn’t have a child or even if they chose not to have them…well, that had been the case for many generations but for different reasons along the way. We saw the rise of women fighting to enter the man’s world of having a career and being competitive in it. That alone began to change families, motherhood, and how we then and now define parenting.

Have you ever REALLY thought about how different parenting and families have become over just the last few generations?  It’s mind boggling. There is really no one definition of it. Most of us were raised to believe that you find someone you love…you get married…you have children…work hard…grow old. Simple as that. But as we now see that was WAY left open to interpretation. Now we have, single Moms, single Dads, 2 Dads, 2 Moms, “Grandparent” parents, 2 working parents, no parents, etc. etc. I am not judging in anyway….let’s make that clear. I am a Christian and I believe what I believe and even if I don’t believe what you believe I love you anyway… until you hurt people, then I have to work on praying for you and forgiving you. But, the point I am getting to is no matter who you love or what you believe, what are our children to think, understand, or believe in? Traditional values are getting pushed away by Liberal mindsets…again not judging just feel as if there could be room for both with understanding and love. I feel if we don’t figure out a way to define all these family dynamics and\or learn to co-exist as a “human” dynamic of love and tolerance, we cannot possibly expect our youth to function and thrive as they grow up and begin to try to make their own ways and own decisions on how THEY will form their own families.

We have gotten so far off into a “do whatever you want or feel like” mentality that we have lost all structure and there are no guidelines for our children to follow. CHILDREN AND TEENAGERS NEED LOVE, STRUCTURE, DISCIPLINE, AND CONSISTENCY. I will say it til the cows come home!!!! Again, this is my opinion but a formed opinion from LIVING it. I feel like I’m old enough now to share advice because I’ve been through a lot for a lot of years and I will tell you no matter what you believe I made it through it all with God. I am so thankful I had Him. From a very young age I had a very strong relationship with God and I don’t know why but I would have hated to see what would have become of me if I didn’t. fb_img_1478543918140

I come from a family of major dysfunction, 2 divorces, and plenty I could write an entire book about… but I won’t get into details out of respect for the people involved. I grew up saying to myself, “When I grow up and have kids they will be loved, put first, and will always know I have their back…and I will MAKE SURE they have respect and love and whatever discipline and sacrifice it takes to make them good citizens…and they will LOVE Jesus!!” I promise you…it was my one goal. I wanted to be a wife and Mother. I think it was fueled by me wanting to show my parents how to do it right! I NEVER wanted my children to feel what I felt. I spent so much of my childhood not feeling loved or protected and I cannot tell you in words what that feels like but I can tell you I will never forget that feeling…never. wedding 1984-3

Now I didn’t always go about things the right way…I got married way too young, didn’t prepare myself with skills or education for a time when God forbid I had to become the breadwinner, and I have made many mistakes along my 35 year parental and marital journey. But, I have always believed a mistake is only a mistake when you don’t learn from it or make the best of it….and for goodness sake don’t repeat it!!

We did wait 3 years after getting married to start our family. I pretty much have to “cookie cut” everything. I HAVE to accomplish A-B- & C before I can attempt D. I didn’t want to have baby number one until we bought a house…and that’s what we did. We moved in our first house (loved that house) during the 5th month of our second pregnancy (we had a miscarriage with the first 😦 ) and we were sooooooooo excited! I had to have EVERYTHING done, set up, and tidy before that baby came….and it was. Those of you who know me probably aren’t surprised and are having a chuckle right now. 🙂 IMG_20170630_132511100

Every time I write I worry I will offend someone out there with my opinions and I apologize for that if I do. I just feel so strongly about some things and I write hoping it will make a difference to more than it doesn’t.

I watch all these young parents starting their families and I see joy and I see things that break my heart. I see everything from, overly attentive, spoiling parents to completely self-absorbed parents, to parents who have given up and just let the kids take over, to parents who are too hard and expect way too much, to parents who do this whole “free range” thing to.. you name it. It’s all over the place….and I will tell you it’s taking it’s toll on our youth and how they will grow up and serve this world.

Our TV shows are a really good example. Just take a look at what shows don’t make it and what shows get the ratings. I remember as a kid we had WHOLE nights of family shows we could sit and watch and our parents didn’t have to worry about the content. I was so excited about Fuller House coming back. YES!!!! A family, sweet, good show to watch! Wow….was I shocked. It honestly isn’t appropriate for small kids, (in MY opinion). There’s partying, drinking, adult subjects, sexual innuendos and jokes that are not for kids. But…they fell prey to trying to get that bigger audience and bigger ratings. Every good wholesome show they come out with ends up getting cancelled. I couldn’t believe how long The Middle made it. Such a good show. Funny AND clean. It’s almost as if people NEED the extreme to be entertained now. Don’t get me wrong, I like good ADULT humor but why the CONSTANT profanity? It’s every other word. My ears start to bleed! Between this, the video game content, social media and a completely unfiltered world our youth doesn’t have a chance without guidance and a watchful eye. But…how sadly I fear most are not getting it.IMG_20180601_090835328****READING!!!! Real books=Real Reading…let children continue to experience the smell, look ,and feel of a good book 🙂

These are just some of the examples of what our youth sees and is exposed to and has very easy access to. I believe kids have WAY too much freedom these days and it’s a recipe for disaster in this over exposed world we are now in. With most parents working outside the home at jobs becoming more and more demanding unfortunately you are seeing more kids home alone WAY too much. I’ve seen it at every age level and I am ASTONISHED! Ask yourself….in today’s world do you honestly think it’s wise to let a child the age of 12 or 13 stay home alone everyday all summer? WAY too much time on their hands. Way too much time to delve into all the things they have inappropriate access to. And the one thing I have learned about teenagers…we are raising our 4th one.. is you CANNOT trust them until they prove you wrong. Now I know a lot of you will disagree with me…and that’s ok….it’s what I have discovered the hard way. Do NOT blindly trust a teenager. They are wired to make stupid choices and they need us to control the environments they are put in. It is not wise to just let them go and do whatever and say, I trust my child to do the right thing, this world is honestly pushing them and pumping stuff in their brains every day to NOT do the right thing. BECAUSE… NOW the WRONG things are idolized as the RIGHT things and they are more and more tempted to follow suit. I consider raising kids as a battle….survival of the fittest. As I stated in my introduction it has become harder and harder to discipline and stand up for the rules you want your kids to follow. I feel the majority of parents have just given up. They are tired and overworked and just don’t have the energy to deal with it. It’s a sad state of affairs that parents can’t parent because they have to work and work way too much and there is usually not a parent home to keep a watchful eye. fb_img_1456083434628-1****My beautiful young Grandma ready to start her life as a Wife and Mother… would love to go back to that time and hear what she’s thinking 🙂

Then there is the new definition of a Mom. Don’t kid yourself…it has definitely been redefined. Think about when you were a kid…didn’t Grandmas LOOK like Grandmas???? My Grandma looked the same for 30 years and she was beautiful. She never felt the need to get plastic surgery or a facelift or a gym membership or to wear a bikini until she was 65! She was the most energetic, hard working woman who was fit and healthy and did it by helping others, gardening, walking, and keeping her house and yard in order. That sounds like a list of all the things we now don’t have time for. Mmmmmmmm??????? That sure makes ya think doesn’t it? There is such a debilitating pressure on women to stay the same after they have kids. Keep the same body, the same social life, the same hobbies, AND to work a demanding job, keep your mate happy, wear the latest fashion, keep your house clean and decorated, and don’t forget to log it all on social media…..ya know, portray that image that its all perfect and you have it ALL under control, and ooooooo yeah…BE A MOM. Do you see the difference from then to now? Another example of how change didn’t make things better. When things get overwhelming SOMETHING has to give and when you dissect this situation what do YOU think has suffered from it? Our youth….and I don’t see how you can deny it. IMG_20180703_114334217

As Mother’s we have a role. It’s different than a Father’s but they are both very important. God made us the nurturers and men the providers. I know how basic and barbaric that sounds but that’s how it all began. Why do you think Mom is always the first one to hear the baby cry in the middle of the night? We were wired that way. Men’s brains were wired to sleep to rest to prepare for the next work day we are the opposite. We wake up because we were made to nurture the children. Again, sounds crazy and not the way of today but I think an interesting fact. img_20150405_122515947_hdr

So with all this pressure to be a modern day woman/Mother most are just exhausted trying to keep up with it. Because remember???? We CAN have it ALL!! I don’t agree. And trust me I know a lot of you do and would love to show me proof but this is what I have not only experienced but seen first hand. I have a pretty firm philosophy to back my opinion. This, and how our newly defined roles as parents are affecting our children, our society, our family life and especially the state of our schools I will leave for Part 2.

Thank you for reading 🙂

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